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The #1 Key to Better Relationships

The #1 Key to Better Relationships
 
Yesterday it hit me that there really isonething I believe is the key to better relationships, so I wanted to share it with you immediately. I hope it leads to more moments of connection for you!
 
I’m going to keep it short and sweet, because it’s really simple (though definitely not easy).
 
If you want to improve your relationships, stop making other people responsible for your feelings.
 
That’s it. That’s the key.
 
As long as you are making other people responsible for your feelings, you are caught in the blame game.

Obstacles to Assertiveness

I was recently featured in an article on PsychCentral.com about obstacles to assertiveness. Here is the article, written by Margarita Tartakovsky.  Click here to read the article on Psychcentral.com.

5 More Obstacles that Prevent You from Being Assertive
by Margarita Tartakovsky

Many things can squelch our attempts at being assertive — before we ever even start to express ourselves. In a previous piece we talked about three obstacles that stall assertiveness: a sinking self-worth; our fear of disconnecting with the other person; and lack of communication and emotional management skills.

Assertiveness: The Art of Respecting Your Needs While Also Respecting Others' Needs

I was recently featured in an article on PsychCentral.com about the art of assertiveness. Here is the article, written by Margarita Tartakovsky.  Click here to read the article on Psychcentral.com.

Assertiveness: The Art of Respecting Your Needs While Also Respecting Others' Needs
by Margarita Tartakovsky, M.S. 

Assertiveness lies on a spectrum. On one extreme you’ll find passivity. On the other extreme is aggressiveness. According to psychotherapist Ali Miller, MFT, “Passivity often results from the belief that ‘