Ali Miller, MFT - Helping adults live more authentic, empowered & connected lives
Couples Counseling

Couples Counseling in the East BayTired of having the same fight over and over again?

Has your relationship become a source of stress, rather
than a source of joy and support, like it used to be?

Navigating the challenging terrain of romantic relationship can be overwhelming and exhausting. Intimate relationships bring up our deepest vulnerabilities and insecurities and force us to see parts of ourselves we may not have even known were there. Most of us never learned how to be with the difficult emotions that inevitably come up in relationships, and when these emotions are not tended to, we can end up saying or doing things that get us further away from the loving connection that we actually want.

I'm guessing you are longing to feel the love and support that you felt in the beginning of your relationship. And that you are feeling discouraged that you will ever find a way through this together. You are reaching out because you still have at least some hope that something different is possible. I'm glad you're here and I believe I can help.

In couples counseling, I begin by creating a safe space for you and your significant other to come together to talk openly and honestly about the issues in your relationship that are troubling you. I will listen empathically to each of you and help you each identify what your feelings and needs are. I will support you in rebuilding or nurturing your connection through deeply hearing and understanding one another, and I will help you communicate authentically and empathically with each other so that you can work together to find solutions that are mutually satisfying.

Couples counseling may be for you if you want to:

  • Improve communication skills

  • Deepen intimacy

  • Understand your own and your partner's motivations better

  • Gain clarity about significant decisions

  • Learn tools for resolving conflicts  more effectively

  • Spend more time enjoying each other and less time fighting.

Here is an article I wrote called "The #1 Key to Better Relationships," which captures some of my thoughts on how to improve relationships.

Gotten Relationship CheckupMy approach to couples counseling is rooted in my extensive training in Nonviolent Communication and is also informed by what I've learned from three of the most prominent trainers in couples therapy: Dr. Sue Johnson (Emotionally Focused Therapy for Couples) and Drs. John and Julie Gottman (Gottman Method Couples Therapy). I completed Level 1 training with John and Julie Gottman, and am an approved member who can administer The Gottman Relationship Checkup

Call (415) 820-1433 or email me to set up a complimentary 15-minute phone consultation to find out how couples counseling can help.

Couples Counseling in San Francisco and Berkeley, California

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"Could a greater miracle take place, 
than for us to look through 
each others' eyes for an instant?" 
~Henry David Thoreau

 Ali Miller, MFT
(415) 820-1433
 1600 Shattuck Avenue, Suite 200, Berkeley, CA 94709

Providing psychotherapy, couples counseling, women's groups, and consultation in the San Francisco Bay Area
Offices near: Oakland, Albany, El Cerrito, Richmond, East Bay, Berkeley, Orinda, San Francisco